The first step in the classic 12 step program is to admit you have a problem. I’m addicted to Facebook. When my friends mentioned it, I thought they were just teasing me. When my wife mentioned it, I thought she was just bugging me. When I noticed blocks of work time fading by and nothing getting checked off my to-do list for the day, I started to get worried.
“Worry” is nothing more than my mind telling me I need to be more mindful about my actions. What was Facebook giving me that I needed?
At the time of writing, I have 125 notifications waiting for me. I know 87 of which are my mother-in-law liking every photo of my twins boys I took this weekend. For me, the strongest pull is the comment on my photos (please keep commenting) or knowing who “liked” the point I just made on a wall post or group discussion. It’s a form validation artificial or otherwise.
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I scored a 9, which is just barely in the “healthy use of Facebook” range. Now what did I do before Facebook, I read. I read a lot! I still have a goal of reading 500 books and I noticed a sharp decline this year over last year. Instead a grabbing a chapter here and there on Kindle, I’m scrolling through my news feed.
Here are some tips that I used to reduce my Facebook time.
1. Delete the app from your smart phone and Ipad
Now I check on my desktop computer, or I have to log on via the web browser which is just inconvenient enough to keep me from sneaking a quick fix.
2. Turn off all notifications
The flashing icon on my phone or Ipad triggers my deep cravings to know, now! The same tip that worked for email-aholics also works for social media. Now I check it when I make time. Not when someone responds or posts.
3. Facebook free day
This is the new one for me. Monday is going to be “Facebook Free Day” for me. That is the biggest day of the week for everyone to be on, so I’m getting off.
So when I talk about MORE Made Easy, I just walked myself through the process. I stopped and become MINDFUL of what I like about Facebook, and what I did before spending so much time on the site. I created OPTIONS to change how much time I spent there. I found over 30 different ways of dealing with Facebook Addiction. I REFLECTED on how serious the problem was and how far do I have to go to regain balance again. I narrowed it down to three things to start with. Now I’m going to ENGAGE those options and see what happens?
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